Top 10 Common Excuses For Not Doing A Boudoir Photography Session

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I’ve been meaning to write this for a while and decided now is a great time to just get this done!  I hear “reasons” all the time from women why they can’t do a boudoir session and I’m telling you today that those “reasons” are really just excuses!  I’m a huge believer in loving yourself as you are today in this very moment, and if you aren’t quite there yet, we can help empower you to see yourself as the confident, individual Dream Girl that you are.  So, without further ado, here are the Top 10 excuses women tell themselves (and me) why they can’t do a boudoir shoot right now, and my responses to them and YOU!

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#1) I need to lose 5 or 10 lbs. first 

Most women who say they need to lose weight before their session are really just afraid they won’t like what they see in their photos. I’m not trying to discourage you from committing to a weight loss journey if it is for your health and emotional well-being, however, you DON’T need to lose weight to look good in your photographs! I believe that every woman is beautiful as she is right now, and I know how to pose you and use studio lighting to enhance your best features. In addition, utilizing our professional hair and makeup services before your photoshoot provides you with the extra confidence boost to feel ABSOLUTELY GLAMOROUS!

#2) I’m not very photogenic 

The right photographer can take awesome photos of ANY woman no matter her shape, size or experience.  Pose coaching and directing is a huge part of what I do, and is essential even in the images that appear “candid”.  Coaching you into the pose, allows you to relax and not worry if you’re “doing it right”.  You will know exactly what to do and how to do it.  I will make sure you don’t feel awkward in front of the camera.

#3) I don’t own any sexy lingerie and garters / stockings aren’t my ‘thing’ 

Here is a small list of what clients wore in some of our favorite photoshoots:

  • Matching bra and panties
  • Yours or your significant other’s button-up shirt
  • Tank top or camisole
  • Oversized sweater
  • A satin robe or kimono
  • Or just a bed sheet…

Whatever it is that shows your personality works!  And remember, this can also be a great opportunity to go shopping and get something new.

#4) What if he doesn’t like my pictures

Trust me, he will!  Most significant others already love you for who you are and think that you are beautiful in your everyday look.  We will be photographing you looking amazing, sexy and confident.  No man in his right mind wouldn’t appreciate gorgeous images of the woman he loves.  Here is a quote I received from a previous client:

“… He was so pleased with how they all came out. He actually teared up. He said how happy I looked and that he was really glad I ended up doing them even … He loved how special they were. And I know he will treasure them…”

#5) I’m shy and don’t know how to be sexy

That’s perfect!  As a matter of fact, it can be easier to photograph women who don’t have a preconceived interpretation of what “sexy” looks like.  I can direct or provoke a thought that will effortlessly capture a sexy expression in a way to appear completely candid.  Just wait until you’ve seen your pictures!

#6) Everyone will see my pictures

No, no, no!  You may have seen boudoir portraiture on our web page, blog posts, advertising and possibly our newsletter; Portraits that YOU may not feel comfortable sharing with the public.  However, we only share photographs of women that allow us to display their images so that other women can see the potential beauty that lies within them.  We have every client sign a release form that either grants or denies us rights to showcase your beautiful portraits.  The choice is completely yours if you want them to remain completely private or not.

#7) I can’t afford a boudoir photo session

I won’t pretend to completely know your financial situation.  HOWEVER, I will say a couple of things.  First, you may not be able to drop several hundred dollars at this very moment, but we can help make your dream photoshoot come true by setting up a payment plan for you.  Second, you can save for a photoshoot just like you would a girl’s night out, a vacation, or that designer handbag you really want!  A boudoir photo session is an investment, but it is something you may only have the chance to do once in your life.  If you want a confidence-boosting, unforgettable experience with quality portraits to cherish for a lifetime, you can have it!

#8) I’m too old to have boudoir photos taken

Are you too old to feel special, appreciated or beautiful?  You get to choose to embrace who you are throughout life’s many beautiful stages.  You may not be that same girl as you were in your early 20’s but now you’re even better…you’re a woman.  A strong, beautiful, independent woman.

#9) I don’t feel comfortable getting naked in front of strangers

That won’t be a problem with us because we do not shoot nude photography.  We may imply nudity but you will be covered in all of your photographs.  Boudoir portraits can be as covering as you want them to be.  There is a spectrum of how revealing you want your portraits to be from fully clothed to a tasteful ILLUSION of nude. The important thing to remember is that we will meet you where you’re at. We will never have you do a pose or wear an outfit that you are not comfortable with. Also, remember that we will not share your portraits with anyone you don’t want seeing them, so you can feel comfortable showing more skin in front of the camera.  In most cases, you will be wearing more than you would for a day at the beach.

#10) I’m not married and don’t have a boyfriend

Boudoir is more for YOU than anyone else. Realizing your beauty is one of the most incredible things a woman can experience and having amazing portraits of yourself looking absolutely ravishing is life changing.  Here is a quote from one of my clients that actually made me cry when I read it that explains it all:
“It was so much fun. I cried telling about my confidence issues, but I soon realized that I’m not the only one who feels that way. Today, I felt beautiful. Today, I felt powerful. Definitely makes me want to take a second look in the mirror and tell myself “I am worth every good thing that people say about me.” I am awesome and beautiful and quirky. I need to own it. That’s me. Like it or love it, it’s me!”

I hope I was able to address some of the excuses that we all tell ourselves.  What it all boils down to is fear of the unknown and now that it’s no longer “unknown” you have nothing to be afraid of!  So… what are you waiting for?

Book Your Boudoir Session Now and trust in us as professionals to take great care of you and help you bring out that side you’ve never seen before.

Marilyn Riel
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